If a man marries a woman who, without telling him beforehand, has had no sexual desire from the very first day of their marriage, and this problem cannot be treated either psychologically or physically, what should the man do?

The man should first recognize that lack of sexual desire and refusal of marital intimacy are not exactly the same thing.

A wife may genuinely have little or no sexual desire and still love her husband, be affectionate, and be willing to work toward a mutually caring marital relationship. If the condition truly cannot be changed psychologically or physically, the husband should respond with patience, compassion, honesty, and prayer rather than resentment or coercion.

At the same time, Scripture does teach that sexual intimacy normally belongs within marriage. Paul writes that husband and wife should not deprive one another except temporarily and by mutual consent (1 Corinthians 7:3–5). Marriage therefore involves mutual consideration of each spouse’s needs. Neither spouse has the right to force sex, but neither should simply ignore the other spouse’s legitimate needs without discussion.

The fact that she knew this before marriage and did not tell him is also significant. Marriage requires honesty and trust. If she deliberately concealed something that she knew would profoundly affect married life, that deception should be addressed directly. The couple should have an open conversation about what she knew before marriage, why she did not disclose it, what kind of physical relationship she is able to have, and what each spouse realistically expects going forward.

They should also seek wise Christian marriage counseling, preferably with someone who respects biblical principles. Even if sexual desire itself cannot be changed, the couple may still be able to find ways to build affection, closeness, tenderness, and mutually agreed intimacy.

The husband should not immediately assume that divorce is the biblical answer. Scripture does not specifically list lack of sexual desire as a ground for divorce. Jesus speaks specifically about sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9), and Paul addresses abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15). A difficult or even deeply disappointing marriage does not automatically dissolve the covenant.

However, this does not mean the husband must pretend that the problem is insignificant. A permanently sexless marriage, especially one entered under concealment, can cause deep hurt and should be taken seriously.

So the best biblical course is to pursue truth, counseling, forgiveness where possible, mutual understanding, and every reasonable effort to preserve the marriage. The husband should also guard against bitterness and sexual temptation while seeking a solution that respects both his wife’s limitations and the marital responsibilities Scripture gives to both spouses.