Why did David seek Michal after she was married?


By BibleAsk Team

The story of David and Michal is a complex tale that intertwines themes of love, loyalty, political alliance, and divine destiny. The narrative spans several chapters of the Bible, primarily in 1 Samuel and 2 Samuel, and provides deep insights into the characters involved, especially David and Michal.

Context and Background

Initial Marriage to David

Michal was the younger daughter of King Saul. King Saul promised that the person that would slay Goliath would be given the king’s daughter as a bride (1 Samuel 17:25). So, when David killed Goliath, Saul was supposed to give him his older daughter, Merab, but she was given to Adriel instead (1 Samuel 18:17). Then Saul was told that Michal, his younger daughter, was in love with David so he was pleased because he wanted to use her as a trap for him (1 Samuel 18:20, 21).

Michal’s love for David is first mentioned in 1 Samuel 18:20: “Now Michal, Saul’s daughter, loved David. And they told Saul, and the thing pleased him.” This initial affection was politically advantageous for Saul, as he sought to use Michal as a pawn to ensnare David. Saul demanded a bride price that he believed would lead to David’s death: “Therefore Saul said, ‘Thus you shall say to David: “The king does not desire any dowry but one hundred foreskins of the Philistines, to take vengeance on the king’s enemies.”‘ But Saul thought to make David fall by the hand of the Philistines” (1 Samuel 18:25).

David, however, exceeded Saul’s expectation by delivering two hundred Philistine foreskins, thus securing Michal as his wife (1 Samuel 18:27). This marriage solidified David’s position but also complicated his relationship with Saul, who became increasingly hostile.

Michal’s Protection of David

Michal demonstrated her loyalty and love for David when she helped him escape Saul’s assassination attempt. 1 Samuel 19:11-12 recounts this episode: “Saul also sent messengers to David’s house to watch him and to kill him in the morning. And Michal, David’s wife, told him, saying, ‘If you do not save your life tonight, tomorrow you will be killed.’ So Michal let David down through a window. And he went and fled and escaped.” Her actions showed her commitment to David, risking her own safety to save him.

Michal Given to Another Man

After David fled from Saul, he became a fugitive, and during this period, Saul gave David’s wife to another man, Palti (or Paltiel) the son of Laish: “But Saul had given Michal his daughter, David’s wife, to Palti the son of Laish, who was from Gallim” (1 Samuel 25:44). This act was not only a personal affront to David but also a political maneuver to weaken David’s claim and strengthen Saul’s position by dissolving the marital bond through another union.

David’s Rise and Demand for Michal

As David’s power grew and he eventually became king over Judah and later over all Israel, the restoration of his wife became a significant issue. David demanded his wife’s return as part of his consolidation of power. 2 Samuel 3:13-14 records David’s negotiation with Abner, Saul’s former army commander: “And David said, ‘Good, I will make a covenant with you. But one thing I require of you: you shall not see my face unless you first bring Michal, Saul’s daughter, when you come to see my face.’ So David sent messengers to Ishbosheth, Saul’s son, saying, ‘Give me my wife Michal, whom I betrothed to myself for a hundred foreskins of the Philistines.'”

Reasons for Seeking Michal

1. Legitimation of Kingship

One primary reason for David’s insistence on his wife’s return was to legitimize his kingship over all Israel. By reclaiming Saul’s daughter, David reinforced his political and dynastic link to the former king. This move was essential in unifying the tribes of Israel under his rule, presenting himself not as a usurper but as a rightful heir with a legitimate claim through marriage.

2. Fulfillment of Marital Covenant

David’s demand for his wife can also be seen as a fulfillment of the marital covenant. Despite the political implications, there was a personal and legal aspect to consider. David had paid the bride price and legally married the daughter of King Saul. According to biblical law and customs, she was rightfully his wife, and reclaiming her was an assertion of his rights and the sanctity of marriage.

3. Political Strategy

Reclaiming his wife was a strategic move to weaken the house of Saul and assert dominance. By demanding his wife from Ishbosheth, Saul’s son and a rival claimant to the throne, David was undermining Ishbosheth’s authority. Her return symbolized the transfer of Saul’s legacy to David, thereby consolidating his rule and diminishing the legitimacy of his rivals.

4. Personal Affection and Loyalty

While the political and legal reasons are substantial, one cannot entirely dismiss the possibility of personal affection and loyalty. Michal had once loved David and had risked her life to save him. Their reunion, despite the years and circumstances, might also reflect David’s recognition of this loyalty and an attempt to restore that bond.

5. Restoration of Honor

In ancient Near Eastern cultures, the restoration of a wife taken unjustly was a matter of honor. Saul’s act of giving Michal to another man was a significant affront. By reclaiming his wife, David was restoring his honor and rectifying the injustice done to him. This act was about maintaining social and royal dignity.

Michal’s Return and Aftermath

Michal’s return to David was emotionally complex. 2 Samuel 3:15-16 describes the scene: “And Ishbosheth sent and took her from her husband, from Paltiel the son of Laish. Then her husband went along with her to Bahurim, weeping behind her. So Abner said to him, ‘Go, return!’ And he returned.” This passage highlights the personal cost and emotional turmoil caused by political maneuvers.

Later, Michal’s relationship with David is further strained. In 2 Samuel 6:16, as David brought the Ark of the Covenant to Jerusalem, Michal despised him in her heart for his exuberant worship: “Now as the ark of the Lord came into the City of David, Michal, Saul’s daughter, looked through a window and saw King David leaping and whirling before the Lord; and she despised him in her heart.” This incident culminated in a confrontation where Michal rebuked David because of her pride, and he responded by highlighting the divine favor he had received over her father’s house (2 Samuel 6:20-23).


David’s pursuit of Michal after her marriage to another man is a multifaceted narrative reflecting the interplay of personal affection, political strategy, legal rights, and divine destiny. By reclaiming Michal, David reinforced his legitimacy as king, fulfilled his marital covenant, and restored his honor. This act was a critical step in unifying Israel under his rule and establishing his dynasty. Despite the subsequent personal conflicts between David and Michal, their story remains a powerful testament to the complexities of human relationships and the divine orchestration of Israel’s history.

Throughout these events, the biblical narrative showcases David’s resilience and strategic acumen, which were crucial in his rise from a fugitive to the beloved king of Israel. Michal’s role, while often tragic, underscores the personal sacrifices and turbulent relationships that accompanied the establishment of David’s kingdom.

In His service,
BibleAsk Team

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