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According to the Bible, there are several priorities for a Christian family.
The Bible teaches that God comes first. In Deuteronomy 6:5 we read, “Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.” All of one’s heart, soul, and strength is to be committed to our loving Heavenly Father.
If a person is married, then the spouse comes next. A married man is to love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Christ’s first priority—after obeying and glorifying the Father—was the church. In the same way, wives are to submit to their husbands “as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). A woman’s husband is second only to God in her priorities.
If a couple has children, their children should be the next priority. Parents are to raise godly children who will be the next generation of those who love the Lord with all their hearts (Proverbs 22:6; Ephesians 6:4).
The fifth commandment says, “Honor your father and your mother” (Exodus 20:12). So, parents are next in the list of priorities after God, our spouses, and our children. After parents comes the rest of one’s family or relatives (1 Timothy 5:8).
The next priority down the list are the believers in the church. In the book of 1 Corinthians, Paul’s instructs on how the church should live together in harmony, loving one another. Other counsel is given to how brothers and sisters in Christ are to “serve one another in love” (Galatians 5:13); “be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32); “encourage one another and build each other up” (1 Thessalonians 5:11); and “consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds” (Hebrews 10:24).
Our final priority is to the rest of the world (Matthew 28:19) to whom we should love and reach out to with the good news of God’s salvation.
Therefore, the Bible teaches that the order of priorities is God, spouse, children, parents, extended family, brothers and sisters in Christ, and then the rest of the world.
In His service,