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Second question from Robert this evening. What’s the difference between connection and compatibility? I had a friend that told me these are two different things. Also, does intimacy mean connection?
So connection was kind of what we’re talking about with attachment, right? Where it’s like there’s this bond, this relationship and it applies a certain level of intimacy. And you know, intimacy is kind of that ability to draw close with someone, to open your heart up to them so that you really get to know them. And that really is kind of biblical language. To know somebody is suggesting intimacy. And if you haven’t opened your heart to somebody, you haven’t gotten to really know how they think they feel, what’s their cares, their concerns, dreams, then yeah. Again, do you really know that person? Are you really intimate? And then of course, you could bring in sexuality into there, but that’s not necessarily what intimacy always means. And then by virtue of being intimate with someone, spending that time getting to know them, building that connection, well, that leads to connection. Sorry? The intimacy leads to connection.
I would say the connection exists before the intimacy exists. But you can’t really have intimacy until you have connection because intimacy I think intimacy requires connection. But compatibility is very different from both connection and intimacy because there are plenty of people who have connection and have intimacy with someone that they’re really not compatible with. Their lives are going in very different directions. Their interests are going in very different directions. But they crossed paths at some point and they connected during that time. Their paths were crossing and started to create a relationship there. And their paths are really doing this, but they keep trying to force it to do this. But neither of them is both have.
To make big sacrifices, compromises. Neither gets happy. Lot of upsetment and anger. Frustration.
Exactly. And it’s not good because their paths are doing this.
And the big example of compatibility spoken of in the Bible might be someone who’s a believer versus someone who’s not. And then the Bible is going to say you’re going to be unequally yoked and so one of you is going to feel like you’re carrying more burdens than the other, or the other one’s always getting the way, you’re always losing out. And that just creates a very bad situation which God doesn’t want. God wants god wants compatible marriages. Just any relationship too. There could be compatibility issues. Yep.
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