What’s the best way to discipline our kids?

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There are many factors that should be considered in disciplining kids such as age, personality and the environment. Some parents think physical discipline or spanking is not necessary and see it as old fashioned and prefer other forms like “time out,” “grounding,” or withholding rewards…etc.

What does the Bible say about discipline?

The Bible teaches that physical discipline is appropriate, beneficial, and necessary if administered correctly. When using physical discipline, parents have to be very careful that they are not reacting in anger,unrestrained or being abusive in any way.

Many Scriptures do in fact teach physical discipline. “Don’t fail to correct your children. They won’t die if you spank them. Physical discipline may well save them from death” (Proverbs 23:13-14; see also 13:24; 22:15; 20:30). “The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother” (Proverbs 29:15).

Before the age of reason (12), physical discipline may be used when all other forms fail. But older children respond better to other forms of discipline like “time out,” withdrawal of privileges, taking something away from them or anything that would produce a behavioral change.

Children who are not disciplined often grow up rebellious, have no respect for authority, and as a result find it difficult to willingly obey and follow God. God Himself uses discipline to correct us (Psalm 94:12; Proverbs 1:7; 6:23; 12:1; 13:1; 15:5; Isaiah 38:16; Hebrews 12:9).

Whatever kind of discipline your child may respond to best, do it with love. Discipline should always be followed immediately by comforting the child with assurance that he/she is loved. Teach your child that parents discipline their children because they love them just as God loves and disciplines us. And parents have to pay special attention not o exasperate their children (Ephesians 6:4). They have to remember that love and discipline go hand in hand.

In His children,

BibleAsk Team