Is it OK for me as a Christian to attend my friend’s gay marriage?

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What would Jesus do? Jesus had fellowship with sinners (Matthew 9:10). But when He ate and drank with the tax collectors, harlots and the despised in society, He didn’t celebrate their wrong doing. He called them to righteousness instead. There is a big difference between being there for those that are struggling with sin and celebrating their unrighteous acts.

Likewise, a Christian should not help his friend who is struggling with the sin of stealing, for example, by celebrating the goods he steals. Instead, he should help him overcome his weakness and show him the necessity of restoring all the stolen goods to their original owners. True love heals and restores the sinner back to God. Homosexuality is like any other sin that God is eager to deliver people from.

Jesus taught that sinners can certainly receive forgiveness for all their sins and through the grace of God may receive all the power necessary to have victory over sin. And He called the sinners to forsake their sin. For He didn’t come to save the sinners IN their sin but FROM their sins. True love will invite the weak to repentance from sin because sin separates people from God (Isaiah 59:2). Jesus came to reconnect the sinner to God (2 Corinthians 5:18). Sometimes speaking the truth in love may bring division and persecution (Luke 12:51-53). Christians may be called by God to speak even if hurts. Jesus, Himself, the Lord of love, experienced such rejection (John 15:18).

According to the Bible, a gay marriage is not considered a true marriage by God. The Scriptures clearly teach that a marriage is the union of a man and a woman (Genesis 2:24). And same sex marriage is condemned by God (Romans 1:26-27). Therefore, attending a gay wedding celebration goes contrary to the will of God. And a Christian can’t celebrate any activity that goes against the will of God. “Marriage should be honored by all” (Hebrews 13:4), but a gay wedding dishonors marriage. Even a marriage between a believer and an unbeliever is considered a marriage (1 Corinthians 7:14) although Christians are commanded not to be equally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14).

Finally, Christians need to treat their gay friends with dignity and love them the way Jesus loved them. They need to be there for them in every way possible as long as they don’t violate the will of God. It is real love rather than profession that identifies the Christian. Jesus said, “By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (Mathew 13:35).

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