Is it a sin for a Christian to enjoy getting assaulted by someone else?

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So Robert is asking question, is it a sin for a Christian to enjoy getting assaulted by someone else?

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Hey, Robert, thanks for the very real question.

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And I first hope this isn’t what’s happening to.

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And again, I don’t know.

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What you mean by assault. I could mean a few different things.

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But, um we’ll assume, let’s say, for example, some really bad things.

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Let’s let’s let’s assume that.

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And first I want to say the.

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Bible doesn’t approach approach this issue in.

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Terms of did you enjoy it or not?

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Depending on the circumstances, right?

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You might not be able to help yourself from enjoying it.

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Let’s say from a physical level, what.

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Does the Bible care or what does.

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God say he cares about?

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If you look in the book of.

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Deuteronomy, chapter 22, it talks about various.

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Different types of sexual sins. For example, and starting in verse 23.

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It talks about a situation where let’s.

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Say you have a young woman who’s.

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A virgin and she’s betrothed or she’s.

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About to be married to a man.

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And it says a man finds her in the city.

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So she’s in the city and the man lies with her.

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And then the Bible says they should.

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Be stoned to death because both of them because the young woman did not.

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Cry out in the city and the.

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Man because he humbled his neighbor’s wife. So you should put away the evil from among you.

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So the idea here is if you’re.

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In a situation where something’s happening to.

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You.

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You’Re in a position to, let’s.

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Say, cry for help, get help and you don’t do it. Well, now you do have some sin.

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There’S, some guilt there because you may.

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Have enabled it, allowed it to happen.

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This is very circumstantial, right? And God knows god knows whether you.

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Would be in a position to stop it or not.

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So this is just like one fact.

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Pattern God gives from which we draw greater understanding.

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Verse 25, it says, but if a.

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Man finds a betrothed young woman in.

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The countryside and the man forces her.

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And lies with her, then only the man who lies with her shall die.

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So there she’s in the country, nobody else is around. She could shout, but what good would it be?

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There’s no point for her to take action to try to stop it.

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So no guilt there.

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And you notice here again, God doesn’t.

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Care about did you enjoy it or not? That’s not what God’s looking at here.

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If we go on to Romans 128, Romans one, verse 28, now we start.

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Seeing other things where God says, this is why I don’t like with respect.

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To other people sinning. So he says, even as they did.

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Not like to retain God in their knowledge, god gave them over to a debased mind to do those things which are not fitting. And now I’m jumping to verse 33.

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Who, knowing the righteous judgment of God.

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That those who practice such things are deserving of death, not only do the.

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Same, but also approve of those who practice them.

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So Paul’s saying it’s basically it’s a.

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Bad thing to not only practice bad.

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Things, but to approve of those who practice them. And this goes way beyond just enjoying someone assaulting you. This is saying like, that was really.

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Good to do what you did.

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It was really good to assault people.

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And sort of applauding them and liking that. That’s what God’s saying here.

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Is that’s a bad thing? That’s not what God wants. Like Isaiah 520 is written, woe to.

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Those who call evil good and good evil.

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That sort of thing.

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God doesn’t like, evil is evil, good is good.

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We shouldn’t mix those.

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In two, thessalonians.

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Two starting verse eleven, it says, and.

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For this reason God will send them strong delusion that they should believe the lie.

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Verse twelve, that they all may be.

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Condemned who did not believe the truth.

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But had pleasure in unrighteousness. Now, this isn’t talking about enjoying the experience of being assaulted.

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I think this is talked about again.

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Like you see wickedness happening and you.

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Like the wickedness because it’s wickedness like that’s. Again, what we’re being warned against. So these things are very different than just in the moment because of how it happened, whatever. Enjoying that, don’t have guilt there.

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But even if it was wrong, even.

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If in the moment didn’t handle it.

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The way God might have wanted you.

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To do it, we can take this.

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Comfort from John versus John, chapter eight.

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Starting at verse ten.

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And this is the story of the.

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Woman who was caught in the act of adultery, right.

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She willingly did it.

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You could say the circumstances brought her to that, right?

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So not saying she’s totally wicked person.

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Jesus understood her circumstance, but she was.

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Consensually engaging in sexual intercourse with another man caught in middle of the act.

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And what did Jesus do?

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Start at verse ten. It says, when Jesus had raised himself.

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Up and saw no one but the.

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Woman, he said, woman, where are those accusers of you? Has no one condemned you?

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And she said, no, Lord.

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And Jesus said to her, neither do I condemn you.

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Go and sin no more. And I think this is so important.

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Especially for people who are victims.

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You could get so caught up, should I have done this?

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Should I have done that? Did I mess up? What could I have done?

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Is God angry at me?

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That’s not God’s orientation. God is future oriented. God’s not going to get stuck in the past.

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He cares about what you can become.

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Today, who you can become tomorrow. He forgives you whatever you may have done. And he wants you to just draw close to Him. He wants to cleanse you of your.

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Sins and see you not sin going forward.

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That’s the mindset, that’s orientation we should have.

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And that’s the biggest takeaway so whatever.

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Happened in the past is the past.

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And put that behind you and become.

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A new creation in Christ today.

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So thank you, Robert, for asking that question.

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And Tina, do you have anything you.

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Would like to.

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Think you know, you answered that very well. I think that was very thorough. I guess the only take on it that I thought of a little bit differently, it was just where Jesus calls his people in Matthew chapter five, verse 38 or 39, where he says, but I tell you not to resist an evil person, but whoever slaps you on your right cheek turned him the other. Also. I thought of that just like, should you enjoy being smagged or then smacked again? Definitely. I wouldn’t think that’s something you should take pleasure in. Pain, I think, don’t confuse the two. It’s not good to be assaulted. It’s not a good thing in any way, but I would just give that situation to the Lord and, like you’re saying, separate good from evil and put evil in the past and move forward in newness of life.

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Amen.

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Yeah. And I think, too, that there’s a difference between I mean, there’s so many different emotional reactions that people can have to any of these sorts of things. And people who are groomed from early ages are groomed to enjoy some of these things because that’s what their groomer is conditioning them for. But that’s not God’s desire or goal. So there’s sometimes a rewiring or reconditioning.

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That people have to go through, too.

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Yeah.

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It’s certainly a very complicated subject, I think.

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And I don’t think it’s so much about the emotions tied to it as it is just about doing God’s will and being aligned to God’s will.

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Yeah. Are you enabling it?

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Are you taking pleasure in the wickedness aspect of it’s?

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