If sex is only for procreation, then why did God make it so pleasurable?

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Speaker 1

Second question is, if we are to only have sex for the purpose of procreation, and to do so outside of the scope of procreation is sinful, then why would God create us with an overabundance of nerve endings in our reproductive organs, making sex extremely pleasurable?

Speaker 2

Yes. I have to say I grapple with this myself. I definitely can holy relate to it. I think a lot of people here probably would say that, Kyle, but we just have to think back to the original plan. Yes, I agree. God made us that way. So why? Because he wanted to be that pleasurable in the context of marriage, in the context of what he gave Adam and Eve. And then for the rest of us, he wanted that. And I’m staying in the contest of marriage. It is so wonderful and things are very different and you don’t get maybe the super highs, but you don’t get the lows. And it’s just a steady, consistent, amazing, wonderful thing. But then you have Satan who comes in and wants to corrupt it. He wants to tempt us with novelty, wants us to tempt us with sudden indulgence. But those passions are supposed to be there to tip you, like coming back to your wife. You have me keep coming and say, oh, I got to be really nice to Wendy today. It’s supposed to just build you deeper with your relationship, with your wife, with your spouse.

Speaker 2

It’s a great thing. It almost adds like a magnetic force to the relationship on top of what you already have. And so outside of the marriage, it’s tough. Yeah. When you’re single, it’s tough.

Speaker 1

I think it’s important to note, too, that sex isn’t just for appropriation, that’s one element of it, but it is meant to be a unifier, a connector in marriage.

Speaker 2

We are bonding agents.

Speaker 1

Yeah. In marriage we become one. And that is part of that bonding and that deeper connection and that deeper intimacy. And it’s meant for more than just procreation.

Speaker 2

And even science is backing this up. We’re learning now about the oxytocin.

Speaker 1

Yeah, we’ve known about oxytocin for a while. There’s so many more chemicals too, that go on in the bonding process.

Speaker 2

Yeah. And so the person we ask when these chemicals come through, grow closer with so every time you get closer and closer and closer with that person. And so when you’re dealing with multiple people, it’s going to tear you apart and it’s going to rip your heart out a little bit and who knows what other things will come about. It looks like you got.

Speaker 3

Yeah. Kyle, the thing is, you’re putting something out there that the Bible never said. And I think that’s a really big problem when it comes to addressing questions is I don’t know if somebody told you this, but that’s not what the Bible says. So you have to understand that sexting only for the purpose of procreation. The Bible never says that. Bible says that the bed is under file. They see that in Hebrews 13 four. So the Bible never said that sex is only for procreation, but it is supposed to be between a man and woman. And if you enjoy it outside of marriage, that’s a problem because there’s dangers in it. Just like my friends Jay, when you’re saying.

Speaker 2

You’Re missing out on a deeper, more amazing experience. The point of marriage is for us to experience on a smaller scale what the Godhead experiences and their unity. It’s a unique, amazing thing to be able to be one with someone as God is like one with God.

Speaker 1

Some people say if sex is supposed to be made for marriage, why do they have it have better outside of marriage? Well, that really comes down to a relationship with the partner and the intimacy and the connection and also a rewiring of our brain. This is one of the fascinating things about this experience is that when it’s outside of marriage or done and engaged in what the Bible considers to be like sinful indulgences, the Bible says it’s a sin against our own body. And the reason is because it actually changes the way our brain, our body, our nervous system functions. And this is one of the reasons why sexual abuse of young children is such a problem because it actually grooms. It starts to create a grooming of an adaptation like changes in the brain and body and nervous system that God never intended to be there. And when that happens, it increases the propensity and the desire for further engagement in that kind of behavior and activity. And what that does is it creates a false sense of fulfillment that continues to be more and more self indulgent and self fulfilling, self serving, instead of the way God intended it to be, which is to be others serving that.

Speaker 1

It’s a mutual thing. It’s meant for our pleasure, but it’s also meant for our partner’s pleasure. And when we have this in a proper kind of experience and our nervous system is functioning in that way, then it’s actually continuing to draw us closer and closer to our partner in service to our partner. And it’s a reciprocal kind of thing that deepens and strengthens the relationship while bringing fulfillment.

Speaker 2

And actually that’s a really important point. Ephesians 525 like the command there is husbands love your wives even as Christ also loves the church. And as part of that, there’s so much false teachings out there amongst Christians where like there’s pastors basically saying husbands should be able to rape their wives and the Bible only says the opposite sex, you should be able to enjoy it. But it’s also for you when you were saying to pleasure your spouse, it’s about the giving and it’s just this amazing thing where you give and they give and both receive and it just blows my own mind. What it is, is beyond, I say our comprehension, and it’s supposed to be this really spiritual experience with this one person for life.

Speaker 1

Yeah. And when that relationship, when it is a healthy marriage relationship that is really reciprocal and service to others, and then that intimacy is there, it’s like nothing you could ever imagine otherwise. But the key is that you have to have a solid relationship because there are, unfortunately, many marriages, many relationships that are not built on a solid, healthy foundation. They got together, they got married, but the love isn’t there. The connection isn’t there. The devotion and commitment isn’t there.

Speaker 2

They’re not alone, but they’re lonely.

Speaker 1

Yeah. They’re together, but they still feel alone. Well, intimacy in that kind of situation is only going to be so much, but when you have true, deep connection and reciprocity and proper, healthy union, I mean, mind blowing.

Speaker 2

Yeah. Thank you for asking. Give us a chance to address this because this is a very important topic for a lot of people. And as you can see here, we’re not afraid to delve into these issues that some people get squeamish about. Squeamish?

Speaker 3

Yeah.

Speaker 1

For sure.

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