I am contemplating marrying a pastor but I fear that his work will be his priority. Any advice?

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It is definitely important to feel loved and desired by your partner for this is vital part of the marriage relation. Another important part is the understanding that marriage is just as much an act of service as it is an act of receiving. Rather than hoping or praying that your union would result in making you the priority, let your hope and prayer be that the Lord will be the priority and center of both of your lives.

You might have heard of this example, there is a circle with a center, the center is where God is, we are all scattered on the outside circle, the closer we come to God the closer we will end up coming to each other “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness” (Jeremiah 3:13).

Keep in mind, if you were to marry a man who has devoted his life to the service of the Lord, you would also be entering into a pact to devote your life to being a help-mate to this man in achieving such a noble cause (Genesis 2:18). There is tremendous rewards in giving for “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35).

As we seek to serve the Lord, He will bless the components that make our relationships whole and meaningful. In fact, it’s a promise, Matthew 6:33 states, “Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these other things shall be added unto you.” These other things refers to the things we desire and need, which the Lord understands, in many cases are fulfillments, appreciations and meaningful relationships (Ps. 23:6). Put God first, and He will give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4). If we choose and love what God loves, we shall enjoy the petitions of our hearts.

In His service,

BibleAsk Team

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