Question: Should a Christian never say anything that might offend someone else’s feelings? Can we be offended being a Christian?
Answer: Do we have room to be offended as a Christian or refrain from saying something which is offensive even if it is the truth? Only when led by the Lord, a Christian may have to speak to his brother to point an error that could hurt his feelings. But this matter has to be dealt with in the spirit of Christ’s humility and love. Many new believers have a wrong understanding of meekness and humility. They think meekness means silence. But the idea of godly meekness involves having strength and courage, but the kind of strength that is submitted to God’s control.
True humility recognizes complete dependence upon God and knows we have no goodness except that which is found in Christ. Therefore, sometimes our love for God and our fellow Christians, and obedience to God’s Word will lead us to speak words that may hurt someone’s feelings temporarily but finally leads them to the right path.
“But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.” (Hebrews 3:13). “…but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.” (Hebrews 10:25).
Words of exhortation would encourage others to “hold fast” their “faith without wavering” (v. 23). Those who are firmly established in the faith should never forget that some of their fellow believers, whose opportunity for the development of Christian character may have been less favorable, may be passing through doubt and discouragement. “A word in season to him that is weary” (Isa. 50:4) may be the means, in God’s providence, of converting a “sinner from the error of his way,” of saving his “soul from death,” and of hiding “a multitude of sins” (James 5:20).
Jesus is our example of dealing with the erring ones. Jesus hated sin but loved the sinner. He loved sinners unto death (John 3:16). May His love be our guide in dealing with the erring ones “This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.” (John 15:12).
In His service,