Can the Bible aid in full healing from betrayal and broken trust?

Author: BibleAsk Team


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Speaker 1

Okay so Mel Angeli is asking can Bible ask clarify how the Bible helps us completely emotionally heal from betrayal and broken trust to the point these negative feelings become irrelevant even when something reminds us of them. Oh my goodness, I love this question.

Speaker 2

Yeah. And of course our hearts go out to you Mel Angeli, and there’s probably few things that could be more heartbreaking than to have your trust betrayed and to find yourself being taken advantage of or left vulnerable and your world just shaken. Losing a relationship, I mean it’s devastating and it’s not something that I could say any of us can relate to. We might have all had that happen at times, but your experience is going to be your own. But I do have good news in that there is somebody who does know all too well the pain and heartache that you’re going through and that person is none other than God himself. He really can relate to you on levels probably you’ve never thought of and this is going to be the secret for that healing and getting to the point where you can trust again. So, I mean, first just think about God’s situation. Where God we talked about earlier today, even how God had Lucifer, who was that covering Cherub, who was the closest to him. Mean, your most trusted of all the angels and was betrayed by him. And Satan took a third of the angels and caused them to rebel against God.

Speaker 2

And then the Satan goes and then turns mankind against God. And Adam and Eve then betrayed God’s trust and they chose to listen to the serpent then believe God. God said, don’t eat that fruit, you’re going to die. And they chose to believe. The serpent says you’re not going to. So the fall of man begins with the betrayal of God’s trust. And God always had our best intentions in mind. And it continues know Cain turning his back on God. And then the whole world turns its back on God. Except for Noah’s family. And then, even after Noah, we soon have, just after a few generations, the Tower of Babel, where they again turn their back. On God and want to build this giant tower just to lift themselves up. And then God works to bring Israel out of the and we also just talked about it didn’t take long. I mean, pretty much right away. After Mount Sinai, or in fact, while Moses is still meeting with God at Mount Sinai, they immediately turned to idolatry again, telling Aaron, please make us an idol. So it just was endless. The Bible’s just of betrayal after betrayal after betrayal of God and God always coming back, always keeping himself vulnerable and yet still getting betrayed again and again, like First Chronicles 525.

Speaker 2

Just talk about the wickedness that ultimately came, that Israel ultimately reached by the end, it says, and they were unfaithful to the God of their fathers and played the harlot after the gods of the peoples of the land whom God had destroyed before them. So God repeatedly, in fact, calls or compares his people, Israel and Judah to being harlots, just the way that they totally cheated on him and then whoring themselves with everybody around them. And you could read it in graphic detail, probably be rated X if you go and read Ezekiel 16. God’s usually just such graphic language, just compare and give us an idea of the level of betrayal he felt he has experienced. And after Israel is destroyed and the Jews are taken into exile at Babylon, they come back and God gives them 490 years and Jesus shows up. And then what happens? Jesus gets betrayed by his own people. He’s their promised Messiah, and they betray him. Matthew 23 jesus talks about how, oh, I wanted to gather you as children, like a hen gathers chicks under her wings, but you were not willing. And in fact, he talked about how you just kill the prophets and you stone everybody ascend to you.

Speaker 2

And then the moment Christ is totally betrayed, how is it with a kiss? And Jesus said to Judas, Luke 22 verse 48 Judas, are you betraying the Son of man with a kiss? And then we have this amazing speech by Stephen just before he’s stoned in Acts seven. And he’s talking about this part where he flips in his speech when he realizes that everybody just wants to kill him in the room, the Sanhedrin and the people, the Jewish leadership. He then says this to them you stiff necked, uncircumcised in heart and ears, you always resist the Holy Spirit as your fathers did, so do you. Which of the prophets did your fathers not persecute? And they killed those who foretold the coming of the just, one of whom you now have become the betrayers and mean. Christ’s whole experience, in fact, as a human involved intense suffering, betrayal, and these sorts of things. Isaiah 53 we all know this right, that he is despised and rejected, a man, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows, but he was wounded for our transgression, he was bruised for our iniquities.

Speaker 2

The chastisement of our peace was upon him, and by his stripes we are healed. Did he catch that? It’s by his stripes that we are healed. We are healed by the fact that he was experiencing these things, that he was going through the same traumas, the same hurt, the same pain that we go through. In fact, the very next verse, verse six, it says, we all, like sheep, have gone astray. We have turned everyone to his own way. This is another way of saying again that we have betrayed God, we have turned our backs on Him. And yet the very next line says, and the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all. So even though we’re betraying God, god is still taking steps to reconcile us back to Him. And this whole process of Christ’s suffering was so that we can find healing in that. And you say, like Jay, how is that? How am I going to find healing in Christ suffering again? Here’s a little clue. Hebrews 415, it says, for we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin.

Speaker 2

Did he catch it? Though we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize. Let’s flip it around. We have a high priest who can sympathize because he was like us in every way except without sin. So he has felt in every way possible all the pain, all the hurt, all the traumas that come with sin, all the consequences of sin. What we have caused others and others have caused to us. He has experienced all of it for the very purpose that you can find healing in it, because you can trust Him as being your Savior, that he can say, I can relate to you, you can relate to me. Trust your heart to me, because he is going to be the only person who will never ever betray you. Never ever. Psalms it says, help Lord, for no one is faithful anymore. Those who are loyal have vanished from the human race. So no human is trustworthy but God. Psalm 91 Four he will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings will you find refuge. His faithfulness will be your shield and a rampart. It’s in the faithfulness of God that we could find a safe place.

Speaker 2

In his never ending faithfulness that we find protection, that our heart can be guarded, that we can be replenished with the love that we were denied. Only in Him can we ever find those things. Sometimes you can have good relationships, but the only one that you truly can ever trust is going to be with God. And when you are good with God, when you are fully trusting Him and when you are dwelling under his feathers, letting Him cover you, that is now when you are able to be more vulnerable again with others, because you got everything you need in God and now you’re more in a position to then actually be giving to others. That’s the secret. That’s what the Bible is trying to tell us. So it’s not going to happen overnight. But start trusting God, like really just giving it all to Him, trusting Him, letting Him take care of you. And ultimately this is part of that way of how Christ is going to bless us. Matthew five four. It says, blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. What do we mourn? We mourn loss. And when we’ve been betrayed, we do mourn.

Speaker 2

We need to mourn. We have to grieve the loss of the relationship, grieve the loss of the safety we had, and then from that be blessed. How is God going to bless those who mourn? Isaiah 61, verse one. It says, the spirit of the Lord is upon me because the Lord has anointed me to preach good tidings to the poor. We go on to then it says to console those who mourn in Zion, to give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning. So God can take these horrible experiences, can take our traumas and turn them into something beautiful, something that will give us joy in the future. And often what people find is once they find healing in God, their experience can now be something that then they could connect with other people on, maybe other people who have suffered similar loss, similar betrayals. And now you can give them hope, give them comfort, and they could trust you and relate to you because you have a common experience with them. And we’ve seen this like we know person who let’s say they lost a child early on and that devastated them, and now they’re able to help others who likewise have lost loved ones and lost children and can be now a blessing, and they are blessed as a result too.

Speaker 2

So we hope this will show you the path forward. There is a way forward. And it does begin with just trusting God, letting him be that safe place, that safe person who will never, ever betray. For great is the love, is his love towards us. And the faithfulness of the Lord endures forever.

Speaker 1

We’re getting an echo for some reason.

Speaker 3

For some reason I don’t hear an echo. I know we have technology, things that go on.

Speaker 1

Yeah, I think it was coming back through your system somehow.

Speaker 2

Very good. Anything you’d like to add, Tina?

Speaker 1

I just wanted to add that I think a key element there to overcoming it is surrender. That we have to surrender the pain, the heartache, the anger, the frustration of that betrayal to God, to Jesus, and ask Him to help us through this, to show us the way through this, because that is why the cross happened. That’s why he took all of our sins upon Him to show us the way. And so because of everything that Jay just went through there, you know, that God and Jesus have gone through, they understand and they have been there to an even greater level. The betrayal we have experienced is so minor compared to the betrayal that they have experienced, the level of it, they do understand. And so that’s where then when we surrender, we give it to them and we ask for God’s guidance, jesus’s guidance on how to get through this, that’s when we get free from it and God has a new path for us. And it’s not that that betrayal ever goes away. It’s that the container of our life grows so much bigger that that betrayal just becomes a little tiny part.

Speaker 1

It hurts when it feels like it’s our whole world. But God takes our world and makes it so much bigger and greater and that betrayal becomes just such a tiny little thing of the wholeness of our life and as long as we have surrendered it and do our part of forgiveness, which is for us, not for the person a lot of people are confused about that. But forgiveness is for us. Then it shrinks like it just stays here as this little tiny thing while everything the rest of our life grows beyond it.

Speaker 3

Yeah, no, I think that’s really beautiful as somebody who’s still working a work in progress. We’re all a work in progress. And I think that when it comes to being hurt by somebody and I’ve definitely been hurt by people in a church setting and in ministries and feeling very betrayed. And that’s something that’s really affected me in my walk too. So I definitely feel for you in whatever you’re experiencing. I don’t know if it’s to the extent that you are going through, but I definitely feel for you in that way and something that has kind of helped me. The Bible does call us to let go of all bitterness. Like it says in Ephesians chapter four in verse 31, it says, let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, evil speaking be put away from you with all malice, like those angry, hateful feelings. And it says and be kind to another, tender hearted forgiving one another even as God in Christ forgave you. And that’s something that I’ve really had to come to terms with is understanding God’s great love for me and his forgiveness towards me and how that is the only way I’m then able to.

Speaker 3

If I experience God’s forgiveness, then I’m able to forgive others. Because if I’m trying to do it my own strength, it’s not going to happen. And I feel like that’s something that a lot of Christians try to say like, oh, you just need to forgive, like you just have to. And that’s certainly not something you can do in your own strengths. That’s something that is a gift of faith and it’s a gift of faith in Christ. Like it says in Romans chapter 1423, it says, for whatever is not of faith is sin. Unless you’re doing it in faith in Christ, unless Christ is doing it through you, you’re not going to be able to do it. It’s Christ in you, the hope of glory. So I would ask God to give you the forgiveness for those other people who’ve hurt you and give you that peace and give you the strength to put away those bitter feelings and those hurt feelings. And it’s going to be something that’s just like any struggle with sin, it’s going to be moment by moment. It’s not going to just be like poof, I’m good now, I’m just forever not going to feel bad feelings.

Speaker 3

No, they’re going to come back and you have to continually surrender them. Just like somebody who struggles, like, say, with appetite. It’s like, well, every day they’re going to have to surrender those feelings to the Lord to help them to do what’s right in that day. And that’s why Jesus says today is sufficient for the evil thereof. Don’t worry about tomorrow, just focus on today and asking God to help you through your situation. So that would be probably my best words of see, there are some comments from Abimbola, but I think they’re really good. Previous question.

Speaker 2

Yeah, I think he’s going to circle back on it. Yeah, because he has a good point. Or he or she has a good point.

Speaker 3

Very good. Yeah. And I like the last comment. Above all, god is a merciful judge in all matters. Amen. Thank you for that’s.

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