A question on 4 types of love

Author: BibleAsk Team


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Speaker 1

Okay, so I’ll read this one because there’s a lot of Greek words there. So Robert says, I know God speaks of four different types of love. The love between couples, which is Eros, is friendship, love, Fileo, and a love my family, storge. And just as love for the world is agape.

Speaker 2

Is the love between each of these things. Couples is friendship, love, Fileo. Is that how you say it?

Speaker 1

So I’ve seen a lot of people trying to really maybe oversimplify things and go with along the lines of what you’re saying, and it is an oversimplification. So to really understand these or begin to understand these, this is a helpful way of seeing it. But really, each of these different types of love that the Greeks have have much deeper connotations. So, yeah, the Bible is usually striving for the Agape love. And at least in the biblical context, this is a love that’s not so much love for the world, but this is, maybe you could say, like, God’s love for the world. And it’s a love that’s self sacrificing, that’s putting others first, because there’s so much caring for the interests of others. This is why the KJV often translates it as charity, which even feel like that word doesn’t really convey well what Agape means. So when we talk about love here on Bible ask, I think usually we’re talking about Agape love, the friendship love Fileto, that’s usually what people say a little bit has different meanings than just that. But people always talk about Philadelphia, the city of brotherly love, but it actually was named after a guy called Philip, basically.

Speaker 1

So it wasn’t so much. They were so loving at first, but that’s what the guy there wanted to name it. And when you have the story of Jesus talking to Peter after Peter had betrayed him, and Jesus says, peter, do you love me? Peter, do you love me? Jesus says, like, peter, do you gape me? Peter, do you gape me? And then finally Jesus says, OK, peter, do you Fileto me? Do you least like me? Kind? And that’s when really, Peter’s heart broke. He’s like, oh, I see where Jesus is going with it. ThE Bible really does get a bit more interesting when we dig deeper understanding these different types. But when it comes to love for a couple, I don’t think I could be wrong, Tina, but does Paul use Eros even? We talk about love between a husband and wife. I don’t think.

Speaker 3

I don’t know. Yeah, I don’t know. Off the top of my head, I.

Speaker 1

Almost feel like it’s more of an infatuation, almost even. It’s someone that you might not be married to, and you’re just really driven by lust and passion. I mean, really, it’s a passion. And in the context of marriage, that’s fine, that’s great. But arrows can even apply, as you have there a couple even outside of marriage. And it’s not necessarily totally consistent with Bible.

Speaker 3

Yeah. So just really quick going back to that story between Jesus and Peter in John Chapter 21, where Jesus is saying, peter, do you love me? And he says, do you agape me? Which is like the love of God. And Peter responds and says, oh, you know, I fileto you. And so that was also part of the, that’s what I understood, too, was kind of what broke his heart, was Jesus was saying, do you love me? Love me like the love of God, love me. And Peter’s saying, I fileto you. He’s putting distance. And then finally, yeah, Jesus gives him that. Do you even that? And then he’s just like, oh, jeez, I’m messed up inside. And, yeah, it breaks his heart. I guess that hit me so hard when I first heard that story or saw the different types of love that was in that context or in that conversation, because I was like, how many times does God say, if you love me, keep my commandments? And we’re like, yeah, God, we like you, you’re cool, but we don’t love God the way that we ought to. And honestly, it’s because of our own sin and selfishness.

Speaker 3

And it’s not until we surrender our hearts fully that we can love God the way that we’re supposed to. When we let go of self, we let go of sin. And so I think that’s kind of where Peter was at in that story as well.

Speaker 1

Oh, that’s interesting. Yeah. I never knew that it was Peter that was always replying back, yes, I fileto you.

Speaker 3

I fileto you. He was you, which is very.

Speaker 2

Going, I love you. And I’m going, yeah, I like you too. You’re pretty cool. And he’s like, I’m giving my heart to you. I want you to marry me.

Speaker 3

And I’m like, that’s nice. That’s God’s love for the world. It’s like God is always putting his heart out there saying, I love you, I want you. I want to save you. I want a deep, committed relationship with you. And we’re just kind of like, nay, I don’t know. I’m really interested in football or these other things that we’re distracted by, and we’re not really giving God the love and attention he deserves.

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